Reading 'Diary of a Single Girl' in 'Times Life', one article really caught my attention. It was about the girl being getting an opportunity to complete her dream of becoming a Super Model. She was already a successful model. But getting into ivy league she would have require to don 'The Bikini'. So informed this to her Boy Friend. Her BF and she argued over an hour. The BF said, 'What would his family think of a girl who wears Bikini?'. At the end the BF told her, 'You have to decide one, Career or him'. This came up even when the guy knew that girl was a model when he proposed her.
Imagine you fell in love with someone who is really good at talking. You loved the way he talked with you, your friends, your parents, your siblings and others around him. But once into a relationship you only stop him/her and tell her not to talk with some Tom, Dick, Harry or some Jane, Jennifer or Janice. The thing that made you fall you in love with your partner is the thing you want him/her to stop doing. Of course when that happens, the epic statement comes up saying 'You have Changed, you are no more a person whom I met couple of years back'.
How painful it is to give your passion for the only person who should be most happy to see you pursuing it?
Reading this article I realized this ain't only her problem. Everyone of us who has been in relationship associate ourselves with the above article. How many times in your relationship you have faced that awkward situation where you have to choose between 'Your Loved one' and 'Your Passion'. ?
'Love' is best when unconditional. The moment we start putting conditions it becomes more of a compromise. Why have we made it a complicated, messed up drama. So messed up that we have to say 'I Hate Love Stories'.
Imagine you fell in love with someone who is really good at talking. You loved the way he talked with you, your friends, your parents, your siblings and others around him. But once into a relationship you only stop him/her and tell her not to talk with some Tom, Dick, Harry or some Jane, Jennifer or Janice. The thing that made you fall you in love with your partner is the thing you want him/her to stop doing. Of course when that happens, the epic statement comes up saying 'You have Changed, you are no more a person whom I met couple of years back'.
How painful it is to give your passion for the only person who should be most happy to see you pursuing it?
How many times in relationship you have given up talking to your Best Friend because your partner didn't liked it?
How many of you have given up your dreams just because your partner was not convinced?
Love was meant to support you through your thick and thin and ride with you all life long to support you. But with all such pre-requisite , it is more of a burden that makes you slow down or just give up your journey. Why are you forcing me to scream 'I HATE LOVE STORIES'
So very well said. I'm sure every second person can relate to this.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I really wonder if such a person is/was really worth all the efforts you've put in to maintain the relationship?!
Yeah...There is no lack of such people and such restrictions are commonplace in relationships. At the same time, such things remind one of how blessed he/she is, being in a relationship that never faced these scenarios.
ReplyDelete:) well said dude:) I wonder is it even love when you want your loved one to chose between you and whatever.. A bundle of insecurities is what it must be..:) Love lets you be... Fly..soar high.. holding hands.. filmi eh? ;) but that's what we all want!!
ReplyDelete@Purnima: I second that..and dat was provoked me to write this blog...
ReplyDelete@Swathi: In a perfect world..all you said can be true..but ironically ' A Perfect world' doesnt exist..
@Wizardprince: Yeah god save such relationships..let love spread